3 Ways to Deal With Self-Doubt
Every time we have to get through an exam or a meeting or start something new, the question that pops into our mind is, “Can I do this?” That right there is self-doubt. The inability to trust yourself, your capability. This isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes that serves as a reminder to be more prepared for what’s coming up. But it isn’t good when your actions start getting hampered by self-doubt. Like, you go blank at the examination hall, fumble in front of your investors, and fall sick the night before an important event.
If it is that serious; the best option is to seek the help of a professional. But if you think that you can deal with that yourself, here are the three best ways to deal with self-doubt.
1. Think of how far you have come
And take pride in the journey you have covered. Maybe the road hasn’t been smooth, but you have made it. You will realize that maybe you are underestimating yourself and will come face to face with your reality. Keep a journal. Write all your previous achievements and the things you are grateful for. Look at it every day, and slowly, you will regain self-affirmation.
Remember victory extends beyond capturing the gold medal; engaging in the race itself is a remarkable triumph. So on some days, your biggest achievement will be nailing the investor pitch and on others, waking up and making breakfast will seem an extraordinary feat. But on bad days, remember the good days and believe in yourself.
2. Practice and be more resourceful
We see self-doubt as a form of diminished confidence. But a better way to look at it would be realizing self-doubt can be helpful. If you are worried about an exam, revise. Practice more. Honestly, there’s nothing you cannot achieve with practice. Find out the root of your fears and understand what makes you doubt your abilities.
Review your presentation if you are scared about a meeting with the investors. Do a mock presentation in front of your friends. And yes, several things still may go wrong, but you cannot control the future. So, trust the process, ensure everything is smooth from your side, and let the universe take care of the rest.
3. Take inspiration from others
Jealousy is one of our primal emotions. And not just in humans; we found it in all living beings on the planet. Jealousy can often give rise to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt, leading to an inferiority complex. But you cannot do away with jealousy, can you? None of us can. We will feel jealous when our peers achieve more than us. But it is crucial to use that to fuel yourself. Put that as motivation in front of you — if they can, I can too. It should not be a reason why you self-sabotage. Have confidence in yourself that you, too, can achieve that.
And well, the grass isn’t greener on the other side. When we achieve a lot, we often have imposter syndrome. When we face a hurdle, we tend to think we may not be made for this. But the truth is we are. Nothing happens overnight. You have achieved something; it’s because you worked hard for it, you manifested it, and you made it happen. So, yes, it’s okay to feel nervous but don’t let it rock your confidence.
Self-compassion is very important when it comes to dealing with self-doubt. Try spending time with supporting people who understand you. Cut those people from your life who are toxic. And seek validation from within. Remember, you, yourself, are your biggest hype person.
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